Here we are yet again; the last month of another year, according to the Gregorian calendar. What does this month make you think of? For many years now, I have heard both very beautiful and sad stories around this time of year. According to the American Psychological Association, the most suicides seem to happen around the Christmas holidays. One does not need to be a learned person to figure out why.
Dr. Carl Jung wrote about the subconscious mind where all of our hopes, fears and dreams live. He suggested that many people can be thinking similar thoughts at the same time because of different times of the year. And so the holidays bring up many memories for people. If there are unresolved issues and you never wanted to work on yourself to get to acceptance of the things you have no control over, then thoughts can run amok unless you learn to bring your mind into the present moment.
Then we have the media’s commercialism showing happy families gathered together which may be true for some, and then all of the other families that have split apart due to mental illness, alcoholism, drug addiction, etc. Sorry if this sounds so gloomy! It is not meant to be. Rather it is a wake-up call, I think. Practicing gratitude every day for what you are thankful for reminds us of what is really important.
It is not that we stop loving people whose behavior is unlovable, and at the same time not punishing ourselves for others mistakes. Most people talk about praying for forgiveness. I have heard the word forgiveness defined as giving love for. So, we give love not only to ourselves first, but also vibrationally to anyone you feel has ever wronged you and pray for their well being. For what are the Christmas, Chanukah, Kwanza and other holidays about
at this time of year?
The season of lights, miracles, universal love and eternal light. That has always been the hope of the planet earth, peace on earth and goodwill towards all men. While I do wonder if we will ever see this happen in our lifetime, I am reminded of the many wonderful people doing good work in our world to create small pockets of peace wherever they can. I always like to watch Sixty Minutes and Sunday Morning, American televised true stories. Yesterday, I watched a heartwarming story about an alliance of American and Syrian Doctors that have raised hundreds of thousands of dollars to build underground hospitals in Syria since Assad seems bent on destroying the ones above ground. Many Doctors from all over the world go there for a week or two at a time to volunteer their service knowing full well, they too can be blown up by a bomb.
In closing, I would suggest that we all make a concerted effort to find at least 3 things a day to be grateful for no matter where you are and let yourself practice kindness even to rude people. I have a bumper sticker on my dashboard from the Dalai Lama saying, “Loving-kindness is my religion.” I am always available by appointment in person, on the phone, Skype, etc. Choose what you can create this December.
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