As I was thinking about a title for the September newsletter, this idea kept coming up due to lots of comments I have been hearing the past few weeks. Whether it was someone talking about challenges with a family member suffering from Alzheimer’s disease, or someone else talking about their spouse’s physical challenges, or the news about Houston, the list goes on and on. It is obvious there will always be things that challenge us. Why? If you haven’t figured it out, that is simply the nature of life. Why did we ever think any differently?
Some people want to blame problems or challenges on karma, past lives, actions, or God knows what. I have finally come to accept that I may not only NOT HAVE AN ANSWER but don’t need one either. That is a huge improvement. Science always tries to find an answer, however, if you have lived long enough, you come to understand that certain things in life remain a mystery and that is okay. If you are wondering what any of this has to do with burnout, think of what the word means to you. Usually, it can refer to a job, however, more and more it just refers to everyday life. Once again, it is easy to go blithely along when life is wonderful and easy, however, anyone reading this knows that is not the case all the time and trying to deny that in itself will make you burnout quicker.
In my research, I have found that our whole system rewards people with sick days vs. wellness days. The message is if you want time off, get sick! In other cultures, people work to live and not live to work. Interestingly, I watched Sunday Morning and there was a report by a British researcher stating that if someone works at a job they don’t like, chances are they will be unhappy, get sick and burnout sooner. Gee, is that any wonder? The body has a storehouse of chemicals it releases when there is too much stress and that too can make you ill.
I realize many of my blogs and newsletters seem to come back to similar ongoing themes; in this case Maslow’s theory of hierarchy where he suggested that each person must seek self-actualization or realization which goes back to Dr. Mueller’s 3 questions in last week’s blog found on FB, LinkedIn or my website, www.DrDeri.com. I think that the goal is not so much to avoid burnout, however, to learn to live with less stress. In this way, you set the conditions up to live a more peaceful life, if that is what you want. Not everyone wants the same thing.
In closing, if there are any challenges causing you to feel like you are running out of steam or on the verge of burn out, please feel free to call or email me to see how a mindfulness based stress reduction session can help either in person, phone, or Skype. As always, feel free to write. I welcome your comments and questions.
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