And WHY THAT IS IMPORTANT?
I remember when I was in graduate school back in the ‘80’s and my professor said we are all lifelong learners. I have always carried that thought in my heart and mind. Life certainly teaches us lessons; sometimes happy, sometimes sad. Yet, underneath it all is joy. How is this possible you may be wondering?
In the mindfulness meditation group that I attend, they are reading a book by Joko Beck called “Nothing Special”. This past week the discussion was around the idea that no matter what circumstances life presents, there is always joy within.
The author’s belief is from a Buddhist perspective, which is also found in other religions and philosophies. The idea is that our very nature is joy, from the moment we are conceived and born until the end of our days and beyond.
There are many people who believe that death is final, that there is nothing after. And then of course, there are many who believe that life goes on in some form, that consciousness lives, and we are united with loved ones. There are many books written and movies made about these experiences or perhaps you have had your own.
The point of this however is how to be aware that this current of joy is always present whether you are doing something you enjoy or detest or if you are experiencing pain or happiness. It is all a journey and much of life is filled with uncertainty and dichotomy. I suppose if we were taught this growing up, it might be easier to understand as we age.
In the final analysis, you are free to reject or accept these ideas.
I always remind people reading my blogs that we each have to find what works for us. I can only pass on what helps me in my own growth and development. I recently saw a movie called “Paris Can Wait”. It was a good example of enjoying the journey no matter the circumstances. One of the actors was so focused on getting to her destination although there was no real rush, that she almost missed all the detours, delays, delights and surprises along the way.
This is why when people respond to the question, “How are you?” with “same old, same old,” I can never understand that. Life is different every day we wake up. Sometimes, we want to hold on tightly to the happy experiences. This is to be expected! I would suggest that if we could learn that everything is always passing and enjoy the moment, then we will be more at peace accepting what we have control over, our thinking.
In closing, I am reminded of the many clients I have met over the past three plus decades. I am always humbled when I am referred by someone because that is how you know you are paying it forward, sharing with others what works for you and seeing how their lives improve. If you are experiencing conflict of any kind from the past or present, I can assist you to understand what the lesson is, accept what is happening, stay in the present and live one moment at a time with joy even when you may be crying. Tears are the opposite end of the spectrum. Have you ever laughed so hard you start to cry, or cried so hard you started to laugh? Think about it!
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