This title came to me because of some people I recently met. It reminded me of a saying by the author of When Bad Things Happen to Good People. I recall Rabbi Kushner suggesting not to ask why something happens, but to ask what you can do about it. He wrote the book based on his experience with an illness that his son had. Serving his congregation as a spiritual leader was very humbling because of not really having any answers until he realized that he could seek out other people having the same or similar experience to receive ideas, inspiration, comfort and understanding.
His dealing with that challenge reminds me of the film “Lorenzo’s Oil” where parents found a cure for their son’s illness when the medical community was stumped. Through their ongoing inquiries and research, they eventually found a cure that helped their son and many other children suffering from the same malady. It also reminds me of Dr. Brian Weiss’ books which offer ideas about why we each have our own unique experiences to learn the lessons that are only ours to learn. That’s why it is not helpful to compare your experience to anyone else’s. In the long run, I always recommend each person finds what is most helpful for them.
One young man I met had recently moved to Sarasota. He came here knowing only one friend and shared how he found his job. I loved his story because it reminded me of serendipity at work. Serendipity is defined as chance, luck, fortune and fate. He just happened to walk into a hotel and the Manager came over and asked how he could help. The man replied that he wanted a front desk position and after a brief discussion was hired on the spot. No internet, no newspapers, no networking, just showing up! Perhaps this story will offer you the opportunity to reflect on your own experiences and what doors have opened and closed in your own life.
After all, it is through the people we each encounter that our lives change. When and if you go through a rough patch, the idea is to follow your intuition. You never know where it may lead. Nothing stays the same unless you think it will. I realize that statement could be a contradiction because there is another saying that there is nothing new under the sun. I interpret that to mean that all humans may experience the same situations at different times in their lives. The key word is may. That is because each of us has our own destiny and experiences. In closing, I hope that instead of wondering why, when and if you tend to want to figure things out, that instead, you will ask yourself “what can I choose to do about it?” As always, I welcome your comments and questions.