“Life always gives us the exact teacher we need at every moment
This includes every mosquito, every misfortune, every red light,
every traffic jam, every obnoxious supervisor (or employee),
every illness, every loss, every moment of joy or depression,
every addiction, every moment of garbage, every breath,
Every moment is the guru.”
Charlotte Joko Beck (author)
Yeah, right! If you are thinking that thought, then you are right for this moment! If you agree with the author’s opinion, you are right! The idea is that whatever you believe to be true for you is the TRUTH! It is not my goal to convince you otherwise, however, to offer another viewpoint. In meditation, we learn to say and vs. but! I particularly like this passage because I personally believe it to be true. Why? For most of you who have been reading my blogs, newsletters or books, you might guess that I have come to accept that all of what Joko wrote about is true of life on our planet. You can also observe the opposite at any time such as butterflies, birds, good luck, green lights, good health, opportunities, cleanliness and the list goes on!
However, those are not the things we complain about. Most of her poem is about what we don’t like about life and yet, just as we have rain and the sunshine, all of the above come into our life at some point. A colleague recently commented on a remark made by someone and asked: “Why would you say that?” The comment was made about giving an example of a difficult situation that someone might face such as a woman coming home one day and finds all of her husband’s clothing and possessions gone after two decades of marriage. No note, no knowledge, never to be heard from again. The person hearing this possibility asks, “Why would you even suggest that?” Ha! Because it happened. It doesn’t mean it will happen to you, it is just one of many random events that can occur.
In order to have a more peaceful serene existence, I think it is important to accept that stuff happens, both the good and not so good. By having acceptance, it doesn’t mean we like it, however, we can look at the situation differently. That is the important aspect. How do we view misfortune or sorrow when it occurs? Grieving loss is extremely important and giving yourself time to do that is just as important. You can see the same incident happen to two people and each one reacts differently. For example, some people who have been happily married a long time choose to not want to live if their spouse dies before them and others go on to live their lives. In either case, neither one is wrong. Each one does what each one is comfortable with.
In talking to a good friend in the Netherlands the other day, she shared that her good friend of 77 chose euthanasia because she was very sick with pancreatic cancer and in a lot of pain and she chose not to live that way anymore. In closing, as you enter the summer month of August, think about acceptance of the things you have control over, which is really over your own thinking. The rest is just part of life. Your comments are always welcome.