As I mentioned in last week’s blog, December is upon us. Many associate this time of year
not only as a pause for reflection about life, but most seem to be overwhelmed with ideas of
gift giving, what to get for whom, how to do it all, etc. etc. etc.
Here are a few successful time-proven ideas for you to minimize holiday stress. It has been
said that it is not so much what you give as the intention behind your gift. It is also not the
amount you spend, but truly what you can afford. I recently read an article about how not
to overspend during the holidays. The solution was really very simple. Don’t go above your
budget if that will increase stress for you in paying your bills.
Another tip is don’t overdue. Don’t over schedule yourself so that you are left with no energy or time for relaxation. Don’t rush because rushing causes accidents. Be kind to yourself and others. Be patient; there are many people out shopping and so you need to know in advance if you are shopping in a store that you might have to wait in line longer.
If you are alone or perhaps you do not have good relationships with family, cultivate friendships that enhance your well being. Remember you can’t fix anyone but yourself, and while having compassion and understanding for those who suffer, you do not need to surround yourself with negative, angry people.
Another idea that has proven helpful to many is to realize that everyone may not be on the same page. The saying that birds of a feather flock together suggests that you associate with like-minded people. Perhaps you might feel like being alone and there is nothing wrong with that either. As stated in last week’s blog, many people get depressed at this time of year for they look over their lives and may feel like a failure or remember decisions that affected them negatively.
While this may be true, all roads lead to one. The idea is the road to love, kindness, acceptance and peace of mind. Some call this state of mind serenity. The choice is an individual one. We all make mistakes in life having said: “if I knew then what I know now…” One of the most important things you can do for yourself is practice forgiveness; that is giving love for a situation, that you or another did the best they could at the time, and if not then knowing that we don’t have to have all the answers and trying to figure some things out is a waste of precious energy. Learn when to let go and stop suffering.
In closing, I hope these ideas add more peace of mind to your holiday season, and if you want a “short blast” of these ideas, order my How to Handle Conflict: A Practical Approach handbook for the perfect gift!! Available on my website at www.DrDeri.com or email me at DrDeri33@gmail.com
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