Chances are you have asked yourself this question before. I have always believed that not making a decision is an answer too. It is best to give confusing situations time. Of course, there are a lot of factors that enter into the picture, as in emergency situations. In those cases, there are other people you can call on perhaps to help facilitate an answer. However, for situations that aren’t in need of fast decisions, best to give time!
I liken this scenario to the traffic lights. Red of course means stop, no decision to be made. Yellow flashing lights mean to proceed with caution. You may not know the outcome of a decision, but you are willing to try with eyes wide open and see what happens. Many people regret not having tried something that they wanted to do. Take your time and evaluate the pros and cons of not doing something you really want to try. Last, but not least are the green lights, where all systems go and you feel sure and confident that whatever choice or decision you have made is the right one. Everything seems to come together effortlessly and other people and situations present themselves to facilitate the decision being made.
So, knowing this, you ask yourself, does it change anything? In my mind, it changes the way we look at life. Many of you have heard the expression of going with the flow! What happens when you struggle against the flow? You fight an uphill battle. True, there are situations in life where we battle an illness, a relationship, a job, etc. However, these are normal trials that come and go with the change. And of course, you all know that the only thing that is certain in life besides death and taxes is CHANGE.
Maybe a more appropriate title would have been HOW TO DEAL WITH CHANGE. In the end, it is all the same. I say this because if we look back at other times in our lives, we can clearly see how things came together or ended. Each closed door led to another open door although we were not sure if and when a new door would open. Some have coined that waiting time as being in a hallway, meaning you are not sure of what to do. That is where being in the flow helps and accepting that it is okay not to know what to do next.
There is also the belief that intuition will also guide you because of what shows up if you can read the signs. Signs are how you look at something. For example, let’s say you are worried about money. You have some money saved in the bank and your income is currently limited. Rather than fear that the money runs out, you do everything you can to secure yourself of more income and express gratitude for what you have in the moment. I believe there is always a way because the way opens when you put yourself out there and share what you want and are looking for. That is why networking is so popular.
Years ago before networking became a popular term, it was just known as meeting people and it happened every day, whether you were on a train, bus or a food store. Stop and think where and how you have met people that helped to transform your life. In closing, I met several different people that transformed my life significantly in the most bizarre locations, a gas station, a train, and a retail store! If you are having difficulty making a decision, give me a call and I am sure I can assist you. Kind regards always.
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