Everyone at different times feels out of sorts. What does that mean to you? It could suggest that you feel like you don’t belong, or that you are running an uphill battle. Other ideas might come to mind such as depressed, sad, useless, or be wondering why we all have struggled. This subject came to mind because of some of the experiences I have been having the last several weeks with people I have met in my work. Mostly everyone has a story, some are sadder than others. However, one of the consistent same themes in hearing people’s sagas is the idea of struggle.
Whether or not these struggles are brought about by accidents or the fickle finger of fate, we each have a lesson to share. For example, quite often when I shop at Publix, I am asked at the checkout counter if I wish to donate money to some charity. I always share that the only charity I trust is St. Jude’s Hospital for Children because I know where and how the money is being used compared to other agencies like United Way that had unscrupulous people working for them that stole the donations.
The reason I know where the money goes at St. Jude’s is because I had the humbling good fortune to know a wonderful student at a High School in Delray Beach, Toussaint L’Ouverture H.S. for Arts and Social Justice where I was the campus Mediator and Ombudsperson for Conflict Resolution. Viviana used to visit my office quite frequently with other students who loved and cared about her because Viviana was dying of bone marrow cancer and St. Jude’s had flown her and her family many times to their facility without charging them any money. They had covered her family’s expenses so they could be with their daughter through the many treatments she went through to no avail.
You might have noticed I used the adjectives humbling good fortune. Why you may ask in such a sad story? Because, in essence, to me, the story isn’t necessarily sad, but one of courage and acceptance. Courage to face our final battle so to speak, surrendering to death which is just another experience that we know so little about except for the literature that has been written about it. Acceptance, in that death, is supposedly our final journey home. I guess in the bigger picture of life, all of our striving, seeking, searching etc. bring us all to a point of self-examination. Or for some or many, it would appear they seek obliteration through mind altering drugs, now opioids, or alcohol. I recall Socrates statement, “the unexamined life is not worth living.”
In closing, I am trusting that those of you reading this blog do not find it too maudlin but rather offering you the gift of appreciation for whatever your own challenges are. We all have them at some point in our lives. It is in sharing our stories that we find hope and inspiration. I find that by sharing Viviana’s story with the cashiers at Publix it causes them to stop and think for a moment about what is important. Perhaps this blog has done the same for you. Let me know. Kind regards as always.
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