THINKING ABOUT WHAT IS IMPORTANT!
I recently had an experience which made me think of the title for this article. Although we associate November with the American holiday of Thanksgiving, I realize that the theme of gratitude is one which is an ongoing daily concept if we choose to apply it. Doing so can be life changing. How?
Many of us experienced Hurricane Irma and some of us were impacted negatively by its aftermath, some much more than others. Still, when we go through a loss, we seem to think only of ourselves. This is especially true after traumatizing events such as preparing for the impact of a hurricane not knowing the damage it will do in terms of loss of property or income, etc.
For many of us who live in the U.S., we take many things for granted such as having electricity run 24/7. If you have ever visited or lived in other countries as I have been fortunate to do, you know that is not the case. Not having routine electric can be rather normal. As a good friend reminds me, we come into this world with nothing and leave with nothing. My Dad also used to remind me to do my best and let God do the rest. For me, this is where the idea of serenity enters the picture because as we learn to surrender the things we have no control over such as the weather and the economy or decisions others make which may affect us negatively.
The whole point is that we can always see others who have lost much more than we have and to be grateful that we at least have a roof over our heads. It is hard to imagine the unimaginable much less endure it. Once can never really prepare for misfortune.
In many of my past newsletters, I often tout the benefits of mindfulness meditation and living in the present moment. I do admit to having been impacted by the hurricane emotionally and lost my serenity when trying to apply for lost wages from FEMA which ended up in hours of phone calls, no computer and it being a BIG WASTE OF TIME! The woman who was kind enough to take my application over the phone since my computer stopped working after the hurricane actually made an innocent mistake and put in the wrong dates for one to get a small benefit but a benefit nevertheless.
As fate would have it, I was offered extra classes where I work to cover for a teacher who was sick. Those hours would be more compensation than I would have received from FEMA.
In closing, the moral of the story I believe is to learn to trust the same principles that keep the moon, sun and stars in the sky! Life goes on, the sun comes up and goes down, and whether we are here or not, life will continue! In discussing all of this with someone I respect, she pointed out to always think of those less fortunate. That reminded me that I choose to leave a positive footprint behind me! What about you?
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